Several years ago my children were really into the Fetch with Ruff Ruffman show on PBS. The host, Ruff, would give the contestants “science challenges” to complete. It was always entertaining to watch how the contestants went about completing their challenge. At home we would often complete our own science challenges downloaded from the PBS Kids website http://www.pbs.org/parents/fetch/activities/act/index.html .
One day during that same time period I was pushing my middle child, who was always very particular about the way everything was done, on the swing. She kept pointing out what I was doing wrong, and giving me very detailed instructions on exactly how she wanted to be pushed. Finally, exasperated, I said, “If you are going to be difficult I am not going to push you at all.” She replied, shocked, “But mom, this is your challenge.”
Turns out she was not trying to be difficult, just trying to make up a challenge for me. Her statement made me do a reality check…I did choose to be a mom and strive to be a good one. And nothing we strive for is without its challenges. Quite often now when parenting throws its curveballs I try to put on a Ruff Ruffman smile and remind myself, “This is your challenge.”